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Say Hello to the Bad Guy: Why Women Are Attracted to “Bad Boys”

Women have a primal instinct to be attracted to the biggest, most bad-assed caveman.  These early men offered protection and their toughness and virility made for a very sexually-attractive mate, who might produce strong and virile children more likely to be able to survive in the harsh conditions.  Women are programmed to be attracted to men with high levels of testosterone as protectors and providers; unfortunately, high testosterone levels can sometimes correlate with bad boy behaviors like risk taking, aggression, violence, and sexual promiscuity.

What are the red flags women should watch out for & how can you say goodbye to the bad guy?

Click here to read tips from myself and other experts at Beyond Black & White.

Tips to Deal With Less Than Positive Co-Workers

Everyone has the occasional manic Monday, but what happens when you’re surrounded by negativity, people who gossip and constantly complain?

Check out some tips after the jump or click here to read tips from myself and other experts at goodtherapy.org.

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Justice for LaVena Johnson

On the evening of July 18, 2005, an excited LaVena Johnson told her parents that she would be home from Iraq for Christmas.

LaVena was fresh out of high school when she decided to join the military despite her parents’ objections. Thinking of the financial strains her parents would face putting both her and her sister through college at the same time, LaVena postponed college and joined the military.  In May of 2005, just one year after graduating high school, 19 year old LaVena was deployed with the 129 Corp Support Battalion to Balad, Iraq.

LaVena never made it home for Christmas.

Eight weeks after arriving in Iraq and eight days shy of her 20th birthday, LaVena Johnson died under suspicious circumstances.

Click here to read the horrible story of this beloved veteran’s death–and why the Army should reopen its investigation into her alleged “suicide” on The Source.

Chronic Pelvic Pain & Women

About one third of women will experience chronic pelvic pain in their lives, but chronic pelvic pain can be hard to properly diagnose. Many women may be told that these symptoms are more psychological than physiological and their concerns may be dismissed; the National Pain Foundation & the Mayo Clinic found that about 61% of women who experience chronic pelvic pain go undiagnosed. However, with persistence & the help of the right medical professionals, it is possible to find relief from chronic pelvic pain.

Click here to keep reading this post at Yahoo!

MTV Star Drama Gives Advice On Living Your Dreams

“People that make it, they’re humans too.   We’re all just humans.  One thing that all successful people have in common is the adversity they’ve overcome.  They’ve broken the status quo; they’ve broken the rules; they’ve never let a naysayer stop them.  Anyone who’s ever made it is just a person who has followed their dreams,” says Chris “Drama” Pfaff, star of MTV’s hit shows Fantasy Factory and Rob & Big.

Click here to read the rest of my interview with Drama on The Source.

January is Cervical Health Awareness Month!

If you’re like most women, you dread the gynecologist.  It’s awkward, uncomfortable, and did we mention awkward?!  Awkwardness aside, put a Pap smear on your to do list for this month.  January is Cervical Cancer Awareness Month and simple screening tests can literally save your life.

Every year in the United States, approximately 12,000 women are diagnosed with cervical cancer–and over 4,000 end up dying as a result.  Most of these cases are preventable, as cervical cancer can be prevented or detected early on with a Pap smear or HPV test.

Click here to keep reading this post at The Source.

Kale Won’t Kill Your Thyroid

Jennifer Berman’s New York Times op-ed highlights why being an educated consumer of health care is vital. Ditch any doctor who tells you not to eat veggies (unless you’re allergic) & that candy and soda is better.

As someone who has had my life consumed by thyroid issues the past few years, I take health advocacy—especially thyroid health—very seriously, which is why I was pretty stunned by Jennifer Berman’s Opinionator piece in the New York Times. (Kale? Juicing? Trouble Ahead).

There’s a lot of misinformation on the Internet when it comes to hypothyroidism and “foods to avoid.” Now that it’s a hot topic, I’d like to kill not the kale, but the misinformation surrounding it.

Please don’t believe the hype. While I’m sure their intentions are good, the bloggers, doctors, health gurus, and other people that say “Avoid cruciferous vegetables! Don’t eat strawberries! They’re bad for your thyroid health!” are grossly misinformed. They’re citing outdated information that’s over 50 years old.

Click here to keep reading this post at elephant journal or on Yahoo!

Advice to All Artists & Writers

I’ve decided, 2014 is the year I work based off my soul’s desire; not based on lack, necessity, recognition, strategic moves, increased visibility or any of that nonsense.

Authenticity and writing from the heart are byproducts—mere consequences—of doing the real work.

When I create with heart, love and authenticity, it’s a magnet—the other things I want to see happen will happen on it’s own because I’m doing the work.

We cannot get results from the work we did not do.

Click here to keep reading this post at elephant journal.

Project Child Support Offering Free Help to NY & NJ Parents

Project Child Support and Bounty Alert, the amazing organizations assisting in the million dollar case against Stevie J and now the $100k+ case against R. Kelly, are offering FREE services to custodial parents in New York & New Jersey. Read more

Grammy Winner/VH1 Star Stevie J Owing Over $1 Million in Child Support is A Big Deal: Here’s Why, Plus an Exclusive Interview With the Woman He Owes

As you may or may not have heard, the Grammy winning producer Steve A. Jordan, known on VH1′s Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta as Stevie J, owes $1.28 million in child support. Stevie J, the man behind the Notorious B.I.G.’s second album, Mariah Carey’s hit Honey and many other hit songs, has been inconsistent with his child support payments since he was first put on child support in 1999, when he and his then fiance, Carol Antoinette Bennett, ended their relationship.  Since then, he’s missed 168 payments.  Bennett, in what could be a historical landmark case, is stepping up to the plate to raise awareness on an issue that costs tax payers billions of dollars:  deadbeat dads. Read more

Rick Ross & His Rape Lyrics: Hip Hop’s Contribution to Rape Culture

Hip hop has a long history of objectifying women—there are the scantily clad video vixens, the references to a woman’s physical attributes, the sexually explicit lyrics, & young women allowing men to call them “bitches;” worse yet, calling themselves “bad bitches” because being referred to as a “bitch” is now something to be proud of.

I’ve been concerned about hip hop’s “state of emergency” for a while:  I was concerned when Chief Keef mocked the violent murder of a rival on Twitter; I was concerned when footage of his counterpart Lil Reese emerged, in which he was violently attacking a woman; I was concerned when Lil Wayne released a song in which he openly mocked the brutal and violent death of Emmet Till.  I am not just a concerned citizen; I am a concerned hip hop fan. Read more

Ask April: How Can I Ease My Anxiety & Soothe My Mind?

Sometimes I feel like I am observing my own life–I can see myself: being nervous, stuttering, stammering, unable to articulate clear thoughts, but I don’t know how to stop it. I feel it’s linked to “over thinking.”  How to soothe my mind & align energies?

Ask your own question.

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It’s Not Magic; It’s Manifesting: Q & A With One of @Oprah’s Faves, @GabbyBernstein

My dear friend Gabrielle Bernstein is throwing down some awesome knowledge about the key steps to manifesting your desires! In this Q & A, Gabrielle gives us crucial guidance on how to truly manifest and achieve our goals in 2013.   Read more

Koga Fitness & I Featured in Oxygen Magazine in Australia!

I was super excited to be quoted in the Nov/Dec 2012 issue of Oxygen magazine in Australia!  It’s a great magazine that deals with women’s health and fitness; I was talking about the mind/body connection in regards to a hybrid workout called Koga Fitness, which is kickboxing combined with yoga.  Exercise is great not only to be healthy and lose weight, but to help heal depression, anxiety, and stress.  So next time you feel down, be sure to get up and get moving!  Check out the mention below.

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Promote the Vote: Help @ShesTheFirst Win $1 Million for Girls’ Education!

Hey beautiful people!  I know those of you that have been following me on Twitter for a while or have been keeping up with my blog know that I’m huge on equal rights and education; you probably also know about the work that I’ve done with She’s the First, which is a wonderful charity that sends girls in impoverished countries to school.  Why is it so important? Read more

This is What Lupe Fiasco Was Talking About

I’m sure by now you’ve all seen the bus driver video, in which a young woman is brutally assaulted by a bus driver after an exchange of words clearly went awry.  It was a viral sensation and the butt of many jokes via social media.  When the young woman’s Twitter handle was made public, many users trolled her, telling her that she “got what she deserved.”

We’ve also been subjected to an endless stream of Chris Brown and Rihanna rumors.  Despite Brown’s savage attack on Rihanna a few years ago, it appears that he and Rihanna have somewhat reconciled.  It also appears that no one has ever forgotten about the beat down he was behind—countless young women make comments about how he’s “so fine, he can beat me any day,” while still others call for public exile.

Chad Johnson, aka Ochocinco, former reality star and NFL player, was exiled to another level after he purportedly headbutted his now ex-wife, Basketball Wives star Evelyn Lozada.  VH1 dropped the couples’ show and the Miami Dolphins dropped him from their roster as well, leaving Johnson a newly unemployed newlywed, while a few weeks later, Lozada left the newly unemployed Johnson newly divorced.  Meanwhile, Lozada used the experience to talk to her fans about dating violence, advising them to follow her example and leave if they were in an abusive relationship.

Both Brown and Johnson issued apologies for their less then exemplary behavior.  Are they really sorry; is it genuine?  I won’t speculate—but I will tell you who is not sorry:  Def Jam artist and Chicago native Lil Reese, who apparently thinks it is okay to assault women. Read more

Yoga as an Adjunct Therapy for Substance Use in Social Work Today Magazine

America has long been engaged in a “war on drugs.”  Billions of dollars are spent yearly by U.S. government dealing with the drugs—the U.S. Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) has a budget of over $2 billion, annually.  The organization Human Rights Watch has even spoken on the impact of illicit drug use on the sky-high incarceration rates, saying “Drug control policies bear primary responsibility for the quadrupling of the national prison population since 1980 and a soaring incarceration rate, the highest among western democracies….No functioning democracy has ever governed itself with as large a percentage of its adults incarcerated as the United States.”

Click here to read the rest in Social Work Today.

RelationSHIFT: Discussing Relationships for the Modern Generation in Kamoy Magazine

Check out my article (starts on page 32) on how to make the most of your relationships in the digital day and age.  Published in Kamoy Magazine.  Get it here.

Exclusive Interview: Disney’s Monique Coleman on Happiness, Working With the UN as a Youth Ambassador, & Volunteering

Check out my exclusive interview with Monique Coleman, the star of Disney’s “High School Musical,” who talks about happiness, working with the UN as a Youth Ambassador, and volunteering with She’s the First.

Fall 2012- Brain World Magazine interview with Monique Coleman

Visit www.brainworldmagazine.com to subscribe or read more great articles.

Exclusive Interview: Fran Drescher Speaks Candidly on Cancer & Healthcare Reform

Check out my exclusive interview with “The Nanny” & “Happily Divorced” star Fran Drescher, who talks candidly about her experience with cancer, and what she’s doing to find a cure.

Summer 2012- Brain World Magazine interview with Fran Drescher

Visit www.brainworldmagazine.com to subscribe or read more great articles.

Visit Fran’s organization, Cancer Schmancer.